AWM Abuse Recovery Program: Getting Beyond the After Effects of Violence & Abuse Session Three Part 3D Jan 21, 2014

[Rev. Dr. Dorothy E. Hooks, PsyD]

AWM Violence & Abuse Recovery Program Agenda Session 3 Part 3D  – Jan 21, 2014

1. Start session with prayer – ask Holy Spirit to give you understanding and give you inner healing

    

2. Study each part of session highlighted – this program as well as the other ones focus on healing of the spirit, soul, & body

    

3. Rap Up – write down any questions you may have and send them to me before the next part is sent to you on Tuesday

    

4. Homework: complete any homework for this session and return to me before for next Tuesday 

    

5. Close in Prayer – just pray what you feel in your heart

    

6. NEXT PART WILL BE POSTED TUESDAY JANUARY 28th

    

 

 Violence & Abuse Recovery Program

Lesson: Session Three – Part 3D – January 21, 2014 – Study This

Open in prayer: Father I thank You for giving these group members Your wisdom, knowledge and understanding as they study this teaching; help them to recover completely in the Name of Jesus, Amen!

Session Three’s Goal: to recognize Abuse and its Cycle

• Understand Why Abusers Abuse – Part 3A – Dec 4th

• Understand Why The Victim Stays – Part 3A – Dec 4th

• Develop Strategies for Breaking the Cycle of Abuse – Part 3B – Dec 11th /Part 3C- Jan 14th / Part 3D - Jan 21st/ Part 3D -1 & 3D-2-Jan 28th

   

  Strategies for breaking the Cycle of Abuse – Important Categories of Abuse:

  Partial list of the abuser’s fiendishly inventive stratagems and mechanisms (continued):

   

• Abuse of Information – From the first moments of an encounter with another person, the abuser is on the prowl; he collects information. The more he knows about his potential victim – the better able he is to coerce, manipulate, charm, extort or convert it “to the cause”. The abuser does not hesitate to misuse the information he gleaned, regardless of it intimate nature or the circumstances in which he obtained it. This is a powerful tool in his armory.

TIP - Be guarded. Don’t be too forthcoming in a first or casual meeting. Gather intelligence. Be yourself. Don’t misrepresent your wishes, boundaries, preferences, priorities, and red lines. Do not behave inconsistently. Do not go back on your word. Be firm and resolute.

• Impossible Situations - The abuser engineers impossible, dangerous, unpredictable, unprecedented, or highly specific situations in which he is sorely needed. The abuser makes sure that his knowledge, his skills, his connections or his traits are the only ones applicable and the most useful in the situations that he, himself, wrought. The abuser generates his own indispensability.

TIP - Stay away from such quagmires. Scrutinize every offer and suggestion, no matter how innocuous. Prepare backup plans. Keep others informed of your whereabouts and apprised of your situation. Be vigilant and doubting. Do not be gullible and suggestible. Better safe than sorry.        

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God bless as you take this journey of recovery!

Dr. Dorothy E. Hooks

 

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