AWM Violence & Abuse Recovery Program Program: Getting Beyond the After Effects of Violence & Abuse Session Two Part 2B & 2B-1 Nov 5, 2013

[Rev. Dr. Dorothy E. Hooks, PsyD]

AWM Violence & Abuse Recovery Program Agenda Session 2 Parts 2B-2B-1 – Nov 5, 2013

 

1. Start session with prayer – ask Holy Spirit to give you understanding and give you inner healing

 

2. Study each part of session highlighted – this program as well as the other ones focus on healing of the spirit, soul, & body

 

3. Rap Up – write down any questions you may have and send them to me before the next part is sent to you on Tuesday Nov 12, 2013

 

4. Homework: complete any homework for this session and return to me before next Tuesday Nov 12, 2013 

 

5. Close in Prayer – just pray what you feel in your heart

 

6. NEXT PART WILL BE POSTED TUESDAY NOVEMBER 12th

 

 

Violence & Abuse Recovery Program

Lesson: Session Two – Part 2B – Study This

 

Open in prayer: Father I thank You for giving these group members Your wisdom, knowledge and understanding as they study this teaching; help them to recover completely in the Name of Jesus, Amen!

 

Session Two’s Goal: to recognize Abuse and its Cycle

• Review Previous Section – Part 2A – Oct 29th
• Premise Before Next Section – Part 2A – Oct 29th 
• List the ways to recognize Abuse – Part 2B – Nov 5th 
• Learn & Understand the Cycles of Abuse – Part 2B-1 – Nov 5th  
• Explore how to Stop the Cycle of Abuse - Part 2C - Nov 12th
• Establish a Personal Bill of Right - Part 2C - Nov 12th

 

 

Ways to Recognize Abuse – Part 2B: Nov 5th

 

PHYSICAL Does your partner?....	EMOTIONAL Does your partner?....	SEXUAL Does your partner?....
- Push or shove	- Ignore your feelings	- Tell jokes
- hold you down	- make fun of you	- makes demeaning remarks
- slap or bite	- insult your family/friends	- gets jealous (form of control)
- kick or choke	- embarrass you in public	- forces unwanted sexual acts
- hit or punch	- call you name or shout
- throw objects	- control your action
-   abandon/threaten/hurt you	- lie/manipulate
	- Make decisions   for you
	- injure your   pets
	- threaten you   w/weapons

 

 

 

Violence & Abuse Recovery Program

Lesson: Session Two – Part 2B-1 – November 5, 2013 - Study This

 

Learn and understand the Cycles of Abuse – Part 2B-1

 

The cycles of abuse are tension building, explosion and love. Each phase will increase in time and intensify the longer the abuse goes on. Let’s look at what happens during these cycles so that we can help you recognize each cycle so you will know them to prevent this abuse from happening again.

 

Tension building: victim can sense the abuser’s edginess; small issues are smoothed over; victim feels the need to control the situation; victim denies anger; victim believes they deserve the abuse. To cope, victim denies the second phase will occur and believes they has control; victim’s anger grows after each incident; the abuser knows their behavior is wrong and fears losing the victim; victim withdraws in order to stay away from the abuser; abuser’s jealousy and smothering brutality increases; abuser accepts that their rage is out of control, but justifies it; tension rises….

 

Explosion: Abuser no longer understands their rage; abuser feels the need to teach the victim a lesson; victim will often release their anger and fight back; incidents generally last from a few hours to a couple of days; abuser seems to know how to prolong the attack without killing the victim; the victim will deny the seriousness of their injuries, sometimes to stop the abuse and assure that phase is over…

 

Love: Welcomed by both; abuser sorry, tries to make up; fears losing the victim; charming and manipulative; abuser believe they can control the victim and never hurt the one they love again; abuser convinces everyone; victim wants to believe this and convinces their self; victim sees a glimpse of the original view of how nice the abuser was; abuser plays dependent; victim ends up feeling responsible for the abuser and the victimization itself (this establishes a victim mentality in the individual); abuser gives the victim whatever they want.

 

Click here for PDF version of Session 2 Parts 2B & 2B-1 Nov 5 2013 

In His Service,

Dr. Dorothy E. Hooks

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